Having 2 my two lovely ladies first I never thought there was a problem with our house being covered in pink. Of course they did play and still do play with all kinds of toys. Lucy for example chooses The Avengers, Transformers, Iron Man, or Thor for family movie nights. I have no problem with her enjoying those characters. I have never thought twice about gender equality until one afternoon Eli was putting on Lyla's Minnie Mouse slippers and Adam says "minnie mouse, buddy?!" I don't know what he was meaning by this but I assume he thought Eli shouldn't be wearing, Lyla's slippers. A light bulb went off, he wouldn't had said a thing if Lyla wore Mickey Mouse slippers so why is it a big deal Eli wears Minnie slippers. Society seems very biased, girls can like spiderman, bateman, cars, etc but when a boy likes barbies, playing with dolls or even dress up it is seen negatively. Another thing that really bugs me is the term "boyish" and "girlsish", who decides? Why do we need to decide what a specific gender can or cannot play with?
Thursday, February 6, 2014
Monday, February 3, 2014
The little things
After a long day with the kids all I can look forward to is the quiet. Often the quiet is interrupted by the littles waking and needing some cuddles. Those cuddles are almost better than the quiet time. Listening to Lyla ask me "are there monsters?" right before she falls asleep. Knowing she's asleep because she will shiver, yes it's kinda creepy and knowing that they have chosen me at those vulnerable times makes me ultimately grateful. Now, this need for me is not the same as "mom I pooped come wipe my butt!" or "mom, I've got nothing to wear find my clothes." Those moments are exhausting sometimes. :)
Occasionally Eli will wake up and I will be in the middle of Downton Abbey, and I can't miss that, so I bring him downstairs to hold. Once he's back to sleep I will carry him back up the stairs to bed. How does he not wake up? I think about it often, his trust and ulitmate love allows him to feel safe and like he's floating on a cloud(how I would think it would feel to a baby) during the transfer. I am honored to be able to provide that for him, I am honored to be able to provide that for all my children.
Occasionally Eli will wake up and I will be in the middle of Downton Abbey, and I can't miss that, so I bring him downstairs to hold. Once he's back to sleep I will carry him back up the stairs to bed. How does he not wake up? I think about it often, his trust and ulitmate love allows him to feel safe and like he's floating on a cloud(how I would think it would feel to a baby) during the transfer. I am honored to be able to provide that for him, I am honored to be able to provide that for all my children.
Friday, January 31, 2014
Jealous
Lyla, my 3 year old came into the room just minutes ago and said "mommy I'm not jealous!" That was an odd thing for her to say but it got me thinking.
Jealous according to thefreedictionary.com
1.Fearful or wary of being supplanted; apprehensive of losing affection or position.
2. a. Resentful or bitter in rivalry; envious: jealous of the success of others.
b. Inclined to suspect rivalry.
3. Having to do with or arising from feelings of envy, apprehension, or bitterness: jealous thoughts.
4. Vigilant in guarding something: We are jealous of our good name.
5. Intolerant of disloyalty or infidelity; autocratic: a jealous God.
This is something children struggle with on a daily basis, hence the title of my blog. Eli came running at me screaming, "No, mine! No, mine!". I don't think the feeling of jealously ever really goes away. Lucy,6, will come home from school to tell me classmate has this cute jacket and she needs one, you could replace the jacket with anyting given the day. I try my best to tell her that the way she is, right now is good enough, she doesn't need to dress or have the same things as her friends.She needs to be happy with what she does have. I try so hard to make sure she is happy with herself, and I struggle with the same problem daily. It is hard for me to watch her and know that she may have similar struggles as I had. I am trying to give her the tools to handle them even though I am using those same tools even now. Growing up is rough and I am sure I am going to screw things up occasionally but I do the best I can and I know she know's she is loved, that's most important.
1.Fearful or wary of being supplanted; apprehensive of losing affection or position.
2. a. Resentful or bitter in rivalry; envious: jealous of the success of others.
b. Inclined to suspect rivalry.
3. Having to do with or arising from feelings of envy, apprehension, or bitterness: jealous thoughts.
4. Vigilant in guarding something: We are jealous of our good name.
5. Intolerant of disloyalty or infidelity; autocratic: a jealous God.
This is something children struggle with on a daily basis, hence the title of my blog. Eli came running at me screaming, "No, mine! No, mine!". I don't think the feeling of jealously ever really goes away. Lucy,6, will come home from school to tell me classmate has this cute jacket and she needs one, you could replace the jacket with anyting given the day. I try my best to tell her that the way she is, right now is good enough, she doesn't need to dress or have the same things as her friends.She needs to be happy with what she does have. I try so hard to make sure she is happy with herself, and I struggle with the same problem daily. It is hard for me to watch her and know that she may have similar struggles as I had. I am trying to give her the tools to handle them even though I am using those same tools even now. Growing up is rough and I am sure I am going to screw things up occasionally but I do the best I can and I know she know's she is loved, that's most important.
This is the beginning....
Hi all.
I have been wanting to start a blog for awhile now. I have been hesitant about starting a blog that was too personal. However, I am sure the issues I deal with at home, with my husband and three children, are not much different from yours. The goal of this blog is to share my day to day life and hopefully the lessons I learn from my life will be helpful.
Hope you enjoy.
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